Common Lies Women Tell Men

Recently, I wrote another blog post called "Common Lies Men Tell Women."  Within a day it was my most popular post, ever, on this blog.  At the time, I promised to write another one about the lies women tell men; well, I didn't want to be caught in a lie, so I thought I better not postpone it too long!

When I did an internet search on the lies that women tell men, I was startled (let's say shocked) by all the lists that are out there.  I certainly had plenty of suggestions to work with, a few written by women, but most written by men.  Here are some of my favorites, along with my comments:

My List of Lies Women Tell Men

It was on sale (I put this on top, because I've used it myself)
I'll be ready in a minute (or two, or three or ...)
I weigh ___ (Even my husband of 41 years doesn't know!)
Last night was the best ever (Maybe its the truth; maybe not)
That was delicious (If you cooked it, she's telling you how she actually feels!)
I'm not mad at you (If you think she is, she probably is.  Find out why.)
I'm just not ready for a boyfriend right now. (She's not interested.  Move on.)
I don't mind going Dutch treat. (Yes, she does. If you want her, you better pay.)
I love your friends / family.  (She's too insecure to tell you what she really thinks.)
I'm fine.  (If you think there is a problem, there is.  She doesn't want to talk, yet.)

Most Frequently Mentioned Lies

Of these, there were two items that came up over and over again.

The first one was "I'm just not ready for a boyfriend right now."  If a woman tells you that she is not ready for a boyfriend right now, she probably just isn't interested in you.  There's no point in pushing yourself on her, because it is going to push her away even more.  As one of the articles said, "Move on, Dude."

The second lie that was mentioned on several lists was "I don't mind going Dutch treat (or splitting the bill)."  If a man is interested in a woman, he probably expects their relationship to lead to her doing lots of nice things for him.  If he isn't prepared to buy her dinner and/or a movie a few times a month, she is eventually going to get tired of paying her own way.  Don't ask her to go Dutch, and still expect her to treat you as if you are God's gift to women!  If you are a student on a tight budget, look for some free activities, plan some picnics, and come up with some ideas you can afford.  Just don't ask her to pay her own way.  Her budget is probably tight, too!

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Ten Popular Lies

Isn't it interesting how some lies become so commonplace and overused that they actually become popular?  Lies that my parents would never have spoken, are now everyday expressions we have all heard.  Even when we don't use these lies ourselves,  we hear these statements all the time, even on the news or in movies.

Since I am always on the lookout for good lies, this morning my Infobarrel feed revealed an article that was written by another writer, DesperateJournalism.  His article is called "Top 10 Lies that Are Good for Business."  It is a delightful look at some of the lies we have all heard.

I don't want to give away all of the lies that he mentions in his article.  However, some of the ones you may have heard are: 

I have read and accepted all terms and conditions
I did not have sexual relations with that woman
It's not you, it's me

There are seven more in the article that I'm sure you have heard before, too!

Unfortunately, when a lie becomes too popular, no one believes it anymore.  Therefore, even if you have read all the terms and conditions, no one actually believes that you did!  Look at the lies I listed in my article, "Common Lies Men Tell Women."  Most smart women don't believe them anymore.  We just accept them as popular lies that guys use!

Think about some of the lies that you hear people say so often that you never believe them anymore.  I know that I simply roll my eyes (privately) when I hear people say "No problem," or "I would love to do that for you."  We all like to think we aren't creating problems for others but, of course, when we ask a favor it is always a hassle for the other person.  They are just too nice to say so!

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The Cancer Bride

One of the more shocking news stories to come to the public's attention in recent years was the huge lie told by a young bride.  When she and her boyfriend, Michael, broke up after the birth of their first child, she decided that the only way to get her child's father to marry her was by convincing him that she had cancer.  Their story was mentioned in newspapers nationwide, and eventually was featured on a segment of ABC's 20/20 called "Secrets and Lies."

The young bride, Jessica, made the decision to tell her former boyfriend that she had leukemia and that she only had months to live.  As a result of her lie, Michael immediately reacted by telling her to move in with him.  Once Jessica had convinced her fiance that she had cancer, they began to tell other people.  Gradually, the lie was told to about 100 people they knew personally.

Jessica knew that she was in an awful situation, but she was afraid to tell Michael the truth.  She cut off her hair and wore a wig at their wedding.  She even pretended to go to cancer treatments.  People began to donate things to them for their wedding, so Michael called the newspaper to get a feature story about their wedding and Jessica's heartbreaking story.  As a result of the article, even more people began donating money and gifts to help with the wedding.  For example, the wedding dress shop would not let her pay for her gown.  A local hotel gave them a special suite for their wedding night.  A jeweler gave them the wedding rings.  The young couple received a donated trip to Aruba for their honeymoon, after their wedding in May of 2010.

Jessica began to actually wish she would die, because she did not know how to get out of her lie.  Her husband became suspicious, and eventually called the doctor.  When he discovered that Jessica had been lying to him, Mike temporarily left her.  When the police were informed of her scam, she was indicted and spent 50 days in jail.  

Currently, Jessica is in the process of making amends for her actions.  She has paid back over $13,000 to make financial restitution.  She will be on probation for the next five years, in addition to the 50 days she spent in jail.  Although Mike has forgiven her and taken her back, most of their friends have not forgiven her.

Shockingly, this is just one of many phony stories by people who have pretended to have cancer in order to receive cash and other donations.  The unfortunate result of these deceptions is that many people are more reluctant to make donations to real patients who actually do have cancer. 

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Everyone Lies

We all tell lies, and we all know it.  Sometimes we think of them as white lies.  These are those little fibs we tell about our age, our weight, or how much we spent on an item.  Most of the time we accept the fact that we are being lied to, and barely even pay any attention.  We actually expect to be deceived!

We lie to each other, teens lie to their parents, and parents lie to their children.  In fact, according to an article on WebMD called "The Lies We Tell Our Kids," if you claim you have never lied to your children, you are probably lying.

However, every once in a while, a lie is so big, so hurtful and so damaging that we cannot ignore it any longer.  Sometimes these lies cost us money; sometimes they cost us our marriage; sometimes they leave us feeling stunned by our own gullibility.

This blog is about all these kinds of lies.  In it you will find true stories about lies that have hurt people in one way or another.  In addition to what is posted here, I hope my readers will take the time to share their own experiences with lies.  Perhaps you have told a lie that you regret.  In other cases, you may have been told a lie that still causes you to feel angry and resentful.  Finally, you may know of a lie that was told to someone else, and that caused a lot of problems. 

Whatever experiences you have had with lies, please feel free to share them in the comments section at the end of each post.  All I ask is that you do not give the full names of specific people, unless the nature of the lies is so public that the stories have already been published in the news.

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